creative ways to ask your bridal party

Like a Proud Mama

via Borissov

I am SO proud, I needed to blog about this mission.

So like I had said before here and here, I asked my friends to be part of my bridal party by making them secret agents (who were suspects of Project Maravilla -- my venue). They received special packages in the mail informing them about their new role and asking if they would accept it. However, not only are they agents, but they are in TEAMS. The groom's men: BOOM! Thunderpants, and the bridesmaids: Femme Fatale. Every month, they receive a mission that would force them to work together since they are all in different states and many don't know each other. What's so great about this is that it creates comradeship and competition! Come wedding day, one of these teams will declare victory... and right now... FEMME FATALE is claiming it!!

This was this month's past mission:
During my conversations with Future A, she told me many things about my future husband. As you all know, I am 24 now, but Future A informed me that she had granted a special ability to the members of Femme Fatale that will allow each of them to have insight into my husband’s future. She informed me that some visions will be realistic, but some may be far-fetched, but that all will come true at some point in our life. How exciting! But I am dependent on you to reveal these things to me so please channel your inner psychic and work together to collect all of your visions into one coherent document and send them back to me ASAP.

Ellen: 30’s
Kristen: 40’s
Margarita: 50’s
Jasmine: 60’s
Meghan: 70’s

Your mission is to sum up what is going on in Jose and Alejandra’s life during the 10 years you are assigned attached with 3-5 images to accompany your story (can be from online). You can make us as adventurous as you’d like, and feel free to be imaginative.

For example: “Jane” is assigned “20’s.” She may write:

“During their 20’s, Alejandra and Jose had a lot going on. Not only was it the time of their lives that they met, but they also were married. Upon going to Spain for their honeymoon, Jose discovered his passion for bullfighting. After convincing Alejandra that she could pursue her photography in the beautiful land of España, they found a quaint little house near San Sebastian and moved in! Although it was difficult for Jose to make it to the scene, fans grew to love his work and he became known as “El Gringo Bailarin,” changing the world of bullfighting into bull dancing. After receiving extensive dance training from Alejandra, Jose became fluent in styles: salsa, merengue, bachata, tango, and square dancing.

In the mean time, Alejandra began training with a world acclaimed tango instructor, competing in conferences, and quickly becoming one of the premiere tango dancers. She held workshops, training people in the art of dance and photography – two of her passions. People began to know her as “Tacones de Fuego” (i.e. Heels of Fire) for her sharp and fierce movements on the dance floor. In their late 20’s, Jose and Alejandra performed together, with plans to return to the U.S. on their 30th birthday and the possibility of bringing the new art form to Phoenix, Arizona.”

Jane would then attach googled images of a bull, tango dancer, Spain, etc. This can be realistic or completely made up. We encourage creativity (and Photoshop if you like). It is up to you agents.

So today I celebrate Femme Fatale (as noted by the images :) for winning their mission. If you're lucky, you'll get to read their stories!! I'm considering posting them individually. Believe me, they are ridiculous, hilarious, and sweet.

Part II: Asking My Bridal Party for their Hand

Eep! I'm sorry it took me a few days to post. I am literally living in a mess because I am selling all of my stuff and will be leaving Atlanta in 3 weeks! Pack, pack, packing. Lately I've had to do some research on hair salons in Houston (where I'm getting married), so I didn't have time to post. Any recommendations?

Back to my bridal party project. After creating their criminal profiles, I knew I couldn't just send them in white envelopes. I wanted to REALLY freak them out. So I searched ebay for "top secret" envelopes, and lo and behold! I found a pack of 12! So I purchased them and loved them when I got them:

Then I thought, I can't just stick their criminal profile without a letter of explanation. And here folks, with Jose's collaboration, is the letter they received:

It read:

Agent ______,

You have been contacted because you possess a unique set of skills, which cannot be matched by any of your colleagues. We have reason to believe that an organization known as BOOM! Thunder Pants (alias: The Groom’s Men) has embarked on a mission to gather the nation’s most wanted criminals on May 23, 2010 in the city of Houston, TX. Dubbed ‘Project Maravilla,’ it appears that if allowed to succeed, BOOM! Thunder Pants will obtain a device capable of eliminating all adversaries. Thereby, claiming victory.

Your mission, should you choose to accept it –

Utilize your abilities to intercept BOOM! Thunder Pants' movements and prevent them from successfully achieving their mission. You will not be alone. You will be provided a team of experts, who share skills complimentary to yours. Together, you will be known as Femme Fatale (alias: The Bridesmaids). While your skills are unparalleled, your skills alone will not be enough to put a stop to BOOM! Thunder Pants. It is crucial that you understand and utilize the skills of your teammates if you hope to be successful. Details will be forthcoming on the movements of BOOM! Thunder Pants and the rules of engagement concerning each mission. Be cautious not to compromise your identity or the identity of your teammates. If compromised, we will be forced to deny all knowledge of your existence and ‘Project Maravilla.’ It may be useful, however, to acquire the identities and talents of the members of BOOM! Thunder Pants. Such information may assist in the success of your mission.

To accept your mission, use the initials of your full name to create a passphrase. Type this on your Facebook status on the day of December 17th, no later than midnight. Keep in mind, once you embark on this journey, there is no going back and you will only be relieved of duty at the completion of your mission – success or failure. Upon your acknowledgment, you will be provided with more detailed information on your team and your mission. We have chosen you because we have faith in your abilities. We know you won’t let us down. Good luck and God Speed.

– Agents Vidal

Destroy after reading…


Hahah. The best part is that they had no idea WHO was a part of the bridal party and they would have to work together to figure out their opposing team. Our goal (Jose & I) was to have our bridal party work together, get to know each other before the wedding, and have a sense of "comradeship" instead of meeting each other for the first time the day of the wedding and feeling awkward. The girls received note that BOOM! Thunderpants wanted to claim victory and the guys received the same letter, but that Femme Fatale was working against them. What was (and still is) SO funny is that 2 of the agents are MARRIED. And they are by far the most competitive and some of the best players on their respective team. They push their own team to complete the missions because they live with each other and know when one is in the lead.

I typed them up in photoshop to look like a typewriter font and packaged them:

Then I took my save the dates

and claimed them as "evidence" that this "Project Maravilla" was happening on May 23rd.

Crazy, huh?! Jose and I were anxiously waiting for them to receive it in the mail. I was so excited!

For Part III, I am going to share some of the missions our agents were instructed to complete. Hope you enjoyed it so far ;) If you're interested in sharing, feel free to contact me and I can send you the hi-res images! I'd love to hear what your thoughts are and if any brides are doing something different as well.

p.s. Jasmine (my fiance's sister) received one of these and her mom told me she almost threw it out because she thought it was "junk mail." Haha. What would you have done if you received a package that said "Top Secret" and addressed to Agent __Your Last Name__?

Asking my bridal party for their hand: PART I

Sooo, you know, being the detailed planner that I am, I wanted to do something special in asking my bridal party for "their hand" (i.e. to be part of my bridal party).

Before I go any further, for people who think "what the heck? I didn't know that was such a big deal" -- take a deep breath. This was my desire and nothing that is expected from anybody. You can simply ask your friends face-to-face. I just happen to like doing ridiculous stuff like that. That's me :)

Ideas I heard about online:

-Message in fortune cookies
-Make a puzzle that reveals the question (I liked this one)
-Make a mini-scrapbook (noooo thanks!)
-Make a card

I heard this one on wedding bee and thought it was hilarious:

"I bought my bridesmaids a headband, attached a note that said "will you head down the aisle with me?" and included a personal note about how honored I'd be if they accepted and how much they mean to me.

I also asked them to take a picture with the headband on and email it to me to "accept" my invitation. I then put them on my wedding website for the bridal party.

My original thought was to say "will you help me keep my head on straight?" :)"


Anyway, you can see how you can take it simple, or you can really get creative with it. I wanted to get creative with it, BUT involve the guys too. That means nothing girly.

One day on a photographer's website, she posted pictures of this "top secret" package she received from one of her clients. It basically asked her to "document" their wedding "undercover." They were playing off of the idea that photographers want to go "unnoticed" to capture little details. GENIUS!

I took it a step further. But that will be saved for part II (or three? ;). Before I reveal the rest of my idea, I'll tell you where I started. I knew I wanted them to be joined in forces: guys against girls. BOOM! Thunderpants vs. Femme Fatale. This was war. My first step was to send them a secret package in the mail WITH a criminal file OF themselves. I found a template on DeviantArt and, dear readers, these are your suspects:

The brother..

The groom's close friend & fraternity "big brother"

Groom's sister and my partner in crime :)

The groom's close friend & life advisor ;)

College friend and aid in hooking Jose & Alejandra up

Cousin and one of my maids of honor

Bestfriend and other maid of honor

Close friend and college roommate

Groom's close friend

Groom's cousin, best man, and childhood bestfriend

Obviously, I created the content for the girls and Jose for the boys. If you are REALLY interested in getting this template (and have photoshop), just e-mail me. I can't find the Deviant Art link and don't want to spend 30 minutes looking for it if it's unnecessary.

Stay tuned for part II!! :)